Many of the men who call me describe the same evening. They get home from work carrying the job, a worry that never switches off, and a secret they’ve kept for fifteen years. Then they notice something: their most anxious weeks and lowest moods line up with the stretches when the pull toward porn is...
Many of the Christian men I work with have spent years caught between two answers to one question: is porn bad for you? Their church and their own conscience said yes. Nearly everything else, from podcasts and articles to the coworker who shrugs it off, said it’s normal and even healthy, and that th...
Not one person who has called me has asked whether hypnosis is a sin. What they ask is what hypnosis actually is, usually because a church leader once told them it was a sin. Most of them are open and willing to investigate, and that’s exactly what this article is for.
If you’ve fought a pornograph...
Anyone who has pulled weeds knows the difference between tearing off the leaves and getting the root. Tear off the leaves and the flower bed looks clean by dinner. Leave the root and the weed is back in two weeks, in the same spot.
If you’ve fought pornography for ten or twenty years, you know that...
Some questions a man types into his phone but never says out loud. This is one of them, searched from a parked car and cleared from history right after: can porn cause ED?
Maybe you noticed a change months ago and blamed stress or age. Maybe your wife has started to wonder whether it’s her. Under a...
If you’re asking what happens when you stop watching porn, you’ve probably tried to stop before. Maybe more than once. You know the first week: the restless evenings, the short fuse at home, the cravings that seem to come out of nowhere, and the voice that says you’ll be back by Friday.
You are far...
If you’re reading about the signs of porn addiction, part of you wants a true reading of where you stand. Part of you would rather not know, because knowing might mean admitting that something you’ve fought for ten or twenty years has a stronger hold on you than you’ve let yourself believe. I wrote ...
You can hold your wife’s hand through an entire church service and still feel the distance. She’s right beside you, and she has no idea there’s a room in your life she has never been allowed into.
Or maybe she found her way in. Maybe she picked up the wrong device, and now there’s a silence at the ...
If you’ve been searching for Bible verses about lust, you probably know most of them already. You may have memorized Job’s promise as a young man: “I made a covenant with mine eyes; why then should I think upon a maid?” (Job 31:1). You may have prayed David’s words on your knees after another promis...
Some questions a man only asks God. For many Christian men, this is one of them, prayed for ten or twenty years and almost never said out loud: Is porn a sin? Right behind it comes the question that hurts more. If it is, what does that make me?
My answer has two parts. Yes, porn is a sin, and Jesus...
